In response to the comment on my previous post,
"While men tend to go to Asia for sex tourism, women tend to head to the Caribbean, Southern Europe, and Africa."
White men are generally not attracted to black women. This is because they are more masculine than white women, who are more dominating and less feminine than asian women, which explains the popularity of Asian women. The reverse is true for female attraction to men.
The way you describe it, Asian men and black women are in the same boat.
I think you are attributing too much importance to "social power," "status," and "negative media stereotypes,"
If you look purely at dating arrangements in general, even within a single race, the dominating, charismatic guy does well, and the feminine girl does well.
Now, you look at which races correlate with which attributes: white men are more likely to be more dominating and charismatic than asian men (testosterone disparity-see other post). So, white men are more attractive to asian women than asian men.
Now, white women are more feminine than black women (in terms of facial structure, presence of long hair, obesity rates, less-fiesty personality) and therefore are more attractive to men than black women.
It's a tough break for black women and Asian men.
Now, this is something I really want to bring up because I see it referenced over and over again: the idea that negative media stereotypes determine our beliefs. I say no. I say that it is our stereotypes, which form in response to life experience and anecdotal/statistical evidence, that determine media bias.
If a movie was made in which an asian guy emasculated a black or white guy, it wouldn't make sense. Something in us would realize that its not right, that the movie is unrealistic. The movie wouldn't do well.
If there was a movie in which it was white people coming into a black neighborhood and making things less safe, people wouldn't buy it. It doesn't make sense. Why? Because whites don't committ crimes at the same rate as hispanics and blacks.
So now, we have the dating issue. In response to the BIOLOGICAL testosterone disparity between men of different races, certain ethnic stereotypes have formed which are largely true. So, the Asian guys are looked at as wimpy because, well, they are generally smaller and less aggressive. And frankly, if there was an Asian guy complaining that the white guy was stealing his chicks, its because he is not aggressive and built, not just because he's asian.
Sure, if two guys were exactly equal (in height, looks, confidence, humor, voice tone, body language, ...) and one was Asian and the other white, the girl may go either way, maybe picking the white guy because of status issues. But, that rarely happens. Usually the competition is between more dominant white males and more nerdy asians. Is it really surprising who wins?
Same thing with Black women. I love Tyra Banks, Ciara, Hale Berry, and many others. It's just that the AVERAGE black woman is fatter, more negroid looking, shorter haired (and less straight haired), less intelligent, and more boisterous than the average white, asian, indian, or hispanic woman. So, I generally don't find them attractive.
The same qualities universally attract women: confidence, humor, solid body language, intelligence, looks, ...
The same qualities attract men: cute face, hip to waist ratio, boobs, butt, and not being too aggressive, and not being fat. Are you telling me that certain races don't have this more than others?
It's just that certain races are more endowed with it than others. Blame evolution: read my previous posts on why.
But, to all the Asian men out there: do not fret. There is hope. Check out the Asian playboy blog
he has some tips on how to deal. Remember, its always the personality that wins. If you try to convince a girl based on how much money you make or how smart you are, she won't buy it. Yeah, Asian guys, I'm talking to you. But, if you demonstrate confidence and humor, she's yours. Asian guys have alot of approach anxiety. Reference previous posts on evolutionary psychology to figure out why the brain triggers anxiety chemicals more in asians than others. Get rid of approach anxiety.
Black women? It's a little tougher. Because attraction for women is more looks than personality based, genetics matters more than society. Lose weight, cut the attitude, try to grow some long hair that doesn't feel like brillo when we touch it.
Remember, all women, secretly, want to be dominated. If you don't believe me, ask the feminists why women who get beaten by their husbands keep returning.
Women don't respect a man that they can control.
Given that there are huge dominance disparities between races, do dating disparities surprise anyone?